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Great take on this! I think the ritual of the surgeries is a cult-like ceremony of self-mutilation. I can just imagine the post op men talking about it (and by this I mean natal, biological men) like it was giving birth to a baby. My ex-husband is one of them, and since I know he's co-opted my natural labors when I gave birth to our 2 sons, I link his post surgery pain imagination to my actual female experience. BTW, Benjamin A Boyce youtube channel finally is featuring an interview of a trans widow, Tracy Shannon. The usual stone-faced Boyce reels in shock at the details, which are so similar to mine (an 8 year old saying he wants to kill himself, the children used as props while he claims he's "Mom" &etc, too early knowledge about sexuality) that it's just eery. Any trans widows looking to tell your details of our story can find me at uteheggengrasswidow.wordpress.com

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