I dunno why this old article just hit my feed, but it's a good one. There's a conundrum here that my therapist and I have talked about a lot. Beside how difficult it is to get real evidence--so few first graders have the foresight to hide hidden cameras in their childhood homes, ha ha. Likewise, any woman who produced irrefutable evidence (having recordings she made surreptitiously, for example) would be suspicious on that account. (You recorded his calls without telling him?!?!)
Victims have to be messed up to the *exact* right amount for a jury. If you're too messed up, you're not a credible witness. If you're not messed up enough, you're not a credible witness. After all, if the story was true, you'd be more messed up! If a system has to err, I'd rather it err on the side of letting too many guilty people go. I'm not complaining about that part, nor would I ever. But it's readily apparent that sexual abusers are the ones who get away with their crimes the most, for this reason.
Good men must keep their hands to themselves so that bad men who cannot keep their hands to themselves stand out more. "Continence" is the value they used to teach, I think. It's not a reference to holding farts in church.
Very good standards to have on such issues. Often people in power target the broken, the vulnerable, those without a voice that will be hard. It's part of their predatory behavior.
I dunno why this old article just hit my feed, but it's a good one. There's a conundrum here that my therapist and I have talked about a lot. Beside how difficult it is to get real evidence--so few first graders have the foresight to hide hidden cameras in their childhood homes, ha ha. Likewise, any woman who produced irrefutable evidence (having recordings she made surreptitiously, for example) would be suspicious on that account. (You recorded his calls without telling him?!?!)
Victims have to be messed up to the *exact* right amount for a jury. If you're too messed up, you're not a credible witness. If you're not messed up enough, you're not a credible witness. After all, if the story was true, you'd be more messed up! If a system has to err, I'd rather it err on the side of letting too many guilty people go. I'm not complaining about that part, nor would I ever. But it's readily apparent that sexual abusers are the ones who get away with their crimes the most, for this reason.
Good men must keep their hands to themselves so that bad men who cannot keep their hands to themselves stand out more. "Continence" is the value they used to teach, I think. It's not a reference to holding farts in church.
Very good standards to have on such issues. Often people in power target the broken, the vulnerable, those without a voice that will be hard. It's part of their predatory behavior.